Kemsid Blogg: Determination

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - LEFT BEHIND.

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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">The world is changing very fast, people are changing, processes,
methods, procedures, thinking, performance, results and belief systems;
everything is changing. Your ability to keep up with these changes and trends
however will determine your good growth, success and accomplishments in this
season.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Ladies and gentlemen, cultures, tradition and native
orientations today are giving way to civility, objectivity, rationality,
maturity and tolerance.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Collective interest, Collective Progress, collective prosperity
and collaboration, is the emerging orientation. With this generation, barriers
along sentimental divides of culture, tradition, ethnicity and even religion
are being broken by, especially; the educated and the exposed. Incidentally,
the educated and the exposed own and would shape the future.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Dear friend, it's time for you to become exposed. Being schooled
is different from been educated, being educated is not the same as being
exposed and being exposed does not automatically translate to being civilised.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">I've met so many graduates that don't know much, I've interacted
with PhD holders with shocking beliefs and thinking, and I've met
well-travelled individuals that refuse to let go of destructive traditional
beliefs and cultures.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Because of my profession, I have daily access to hundreds of
thousands of people on social media who share their thoughts, views and
opinions on different subject matters and every now and again I'm surprised at
how irrational, subjective, and flawed many views and opinions and conclusions
are.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">We are, ladies and gentlemen, at a thresh hold of that season
where your thought quality, your intelligence, your world view and judgement of
others will determine your access, success and prosperity.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">If you refuse to open your mind and your heart to contemporary
thinking, new reasoning and modern day judgements, you may consequently become
a victim and a tool in the hands of those who do.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Many today in Nigeria have just refused to accept the reality and
the truth especially as it has to do with the government, our economy our
social life and the challenges on ground. They don't really pay attention to
what is being said and the truth of the matter, they consider primarily who is
saying it and they consequently judge the matter based on who said it, not the
facts on ground.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">This behaviour undoubtedly will make many like these become
victims of policies, changes, restructuring and even growth. When you close
your mind to rationality and sagacity because of who said it, you may bear the
consequence of rejecting and not responding appropriately to the reality.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Dear friend, as the year unfolds, I'll like you to critically
subject every opinion and view you hold true to a test. Investigate all,
confirm and affirm if it's a fact or a ruse.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Your opinion about the government, your opinion about our
economy, your opinion about our social life, our culture, our religion, your
family life, your career, your marriage, your friendships and your future. Have
you been believing and holding on to a lie? Are you also a partaker and player
in the ‘they said, they said' information spread?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">“I read it somewhere, I heard it somewhere; I heard it from a
reliable source and all that...” All these unconfirmed gist and rumour can only
but scare you, derail you and cause you to make costly mistakes.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">This year, confirm, affirm and be sure. Don't act on rumours and
hearsays. There's too much happening to be trapped in rumours and lies that
will mislead you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">This season resolve to change your ways if you don't want to be
a victim. Test every tradition, test every culture, test every rumour and gist
before you judge or make your decisions.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Last year I ran into Hassan an old good friend way back, when I
used to live in kaduna. He was a student of computer science in kaduna
Polytechnic. He was then dating Aisha, a pharmacy student at ABU Zaria. These
guys were desperately in love and many people admired and wished them well.
They eventually got married and I didn't get to hear from both of them until I
met Hassan last year in Lagos and he told me a sad story.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Aisha's parents were well to do, they were rich and famous in
Kaduna. They lived in Anguwar rimi, an elitist settlement then, and had houses
all over including Malali, Barnawa, sabo tasha and Badiko, this was way back in
the 80s and 90s.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">This wasn't the case for Hassan, his parents were not so rich,
his father sold wares at a local market called Kasuwar barchi and they lived
somewhere in Tudun Wada a suburb in Kaduna. His parents were struggling.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">After school according to Hassan, Aisha's parents opened a very
big pharmacy shop for her in town and she began to manage it. Because Hassan
didn't secure employment in good time, Aisha advised him to join her in the
management of the pharmacy and he agreed.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">The pharmacy was doing well and after a while they opened a few
other branches, but Hassan had taller dreams than running a chain of pharmacy
outlets.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">He was thinking global and saw himself playing at the
international scene. He suggested international partnerships and collaboration
with the pharmacy business to his wife who frowned at it and said he wasn't
contented. After a while, Hassan became frustrated and decided to pull out from
managing the pharmacy and pursue his IT profession.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">He, after a few years struck it big with IT partners based in
the US and he became very rich. He relocated to Lagos where majority of his
clients were based and bought a property in VI for an office.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Hassan's business became very prosperous, his wife's pharmacy
business was subsequently less than 10% of his own IT business in worth. He
began to travel very frequently for IT conferences, meetings, training,
presentations and international pitches. Hassan became international.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">The problem is, Aisha couldn't handle it. In her opinion, her
husband had changed, He no longer wore native like he used to, he now wears
shirts and tie; He's always on the phone talking to strangers speaking IT
language. His female professional colleagues from the US and Lagos expose their
arms and legs and wear tight clothes. His business partners take alcohol and
are not religious. Aisha is not happy at all. She believes Hassan should have
been contented with the pharmacy business and not be greedy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">She's not pleased with his success or achievements because of
his new associates and relationships. Hence, their marriage is today full of
crisis.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Hassan was very sad when he told me this story last year in Lagos.
His argument is, he hails from a poor background and knows what it means not to
be able to pay bills and lack financial security. His wife on the other hand
has always known wealth, she can't relate with his ambition and insecurity. He
concluded his story making a point I subscribe to, he said, the fact you relate
and tolerate the behaviour, culture and lifestyle of other people doesn't mean
you endorse it and it doesn't mean you're going to imitate or be like them. But
in this life, we must learn to live together, and build together and respect
each other's rights and personal beliefs.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; text-align: justify;">Dear friend, catch up. Don't get left behind, times are
changing, manage and take charge. Wives, don't let your husbands leave you
behind, husbands don't let your wives leave you behind, Nigerians, don't let
Nigeria leave you behind; things are changing fast. Open your heart, open your
mind; Catch up.</span><br />
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TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - LEFT BEHIND.

The world is changing very fast, people are changing, processes, methods, procedures, thinking, performance, results and belief system...

TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING - A LISTENING EAR.

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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10.5pt; text-align: justify;">Effective correspondence is the most key part of managing an
extraordinary and persevering relationship. Correspondence is the oil of
connections. Without productive correspondence set up's, will undoubtedly be
continuous contact and misconstruing amongst individuals and groups.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Numerous hypotheses and proposal have been assembled on this
subject correspondence. Through history humankind has tried to see how to
better impart, as the significance of clear, unequivocal correspondence would
discount retrogression, stagnation, and moderate pace of actuation and minimize
clashes and wars with humanity. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Correspondence for quite a long time has been and still remains
a noteworthy subject in scholarly arrangement. Understudies and researchers
must figure out how to impart adequately. The capacity to consider data,
encode, transfer, manage obstruction, unravel and react accurately stays
critical and pertinent as a procedure to all, in the event that we need to take
greatest preferred standpoint of enhanced correspondence as humanity. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Past verbal, nonverbal correspondence should likewise be surely
knew for all to be conveyed along in ordinariness and clarity of reason. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Be that as it may, for a long time, a large portion of us have
learnt to convey what needs be to the best of our capacities. We, as a matter
of course initiate the correspondence procedure and try to acquire the sought
criticism from our respondents every time we talk. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Numerous have in this way learnt to talk flawlessly,
unmistakably and articulately. Our aptitude in imagining thoughts and passing
on it in the most fabulous way has developed is as yet becoming all around. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">We have in our reality today, proficient speakers, who have
idealized the specialty of conveying thoughts, ideas, sentiments and
perspectives, so unmistakably without uncertainty or perplexity, even over
electronic media where the open door for quick criticism, reaction and
illumination is not even such a great amount set up. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">The capacity to express feelings expertly and concisely has made
sound and video guiding a suitable way to deal with taking in nowadays, because
of the greatness and consummating of expression. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">All around the globe, the force of discourse and of talking has
made men significant, well known, and even scored them as extraordinary pioneers.
The capacity to impact individuals with speech force is an absolute necessity
have for any pioneer who needs to go exceptionally far rapidly. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Numerous today still desire that blessing in the event that it
can be known as a blessing, numerous need to learn and know how to talk well,
numerous need to figure out how to impact others by extraordinary talking, we
as a whole need to enhance our capacity to talk plainly and be seen at the same
time, not very many of us are really keen on figuring out how to listen
mindfully and productively. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">The correspondence procedure is a cycle where the capacity to
listen well is as essential as the capacity to talk well. Regardless of how
great the speaker is, whether we don't figure out how to tune in, the entire
procedure and reason for talking gets vanquished. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Listening is a standout amongst the most troublesome
undertakings men find to do. Huge numbers of us have not aced the specialty of
listening and in reality don't believe it's vital to figure out how to tune in.
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">The best of our relationship challenges originates from our
listening shortcomings. The motivation behind why numerous contend and drag
issues for so long is basically on the grounds that amid an exchange or a
transaction; when they are peaceful, they are not really tuning in, they are
sitting tight for their swing to talk, their hush is to give you a chance to be
done as such that they can express their supposition and not react to your
accommodation. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Since this is their outlook when you are talking, they have shut
out whatever you're stating, henceforth won't think of it as or see your point.
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Numerous matters that should be determined in 5 minutes can take
5 hours in light of the fact that the discussants are not listening to each
other; they are caught up with attempting to offer their supposition and perspective
through speech power. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Since winning and having their direction is more vital to them
than inviting and submitting to prevalent contentions, they continue searching
for an escape clause in your accommodation and they intrude on each time they
feel you have said something in your promotion they can use against your
position. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">It's especially fascinating when you hear discussants in a
contention, all things considered, or over the electronic media the quantity of
times you hear them stressing the word 'tune in, tune in, listen first' to each
other it's astounding! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">As humankind, we want to talk, we think that its difficult to
listen on the grounds that we generally accept we have predominant answers, we
simply need to go and offer our perspective without considering the other party's.
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">We likewise prefer not to listen and would dismiss the
perspectives of others since we may have speculated they have an unrivaled
contention that may influence our own desire, intrigue and position so we need
to shut it out and imagine it's not being referred to. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">We additionally prefer not to listen when we are liable around a
matter and we would prefer not to acknowledge our blame or assume liability, so
we contend and decline to tune in. We likewise prefer not to listen when we all
of a sudden find we are incorrect however feel excessively pleased, making it
impossible to acknowledge our wrong since we are humiliated about being
off-base. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Numerous connections have separated, kinships pulverized,
conflicts emitted, and settlements and groups completely obliterated not on
account of individuals can't talk but rather in light of the fact that
individuals don't tune in. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Large portions of us today have lost incredible companions,
missed awesome open doors; obliterated our families and kids since we don't
tune in. We would rather not tune in, we want to commend our perspectives and
assessments over others regardless of the possibility that it slaughters us;
our will must be finished! Our position must win... <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Another exceptionally pitiful custom predominant in our part of
the world is the pride and feeling of prevalence that makes listening over
ladies and kids disparaging. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">In our conventional ways of life, ladies have no voice and kids
have no say, men hate to listen to ladies or youngsters, they feel it is
belittling and sadly numerous narrow minded and damaging customs have been
authorized on the grounds that ladies and kids were not permitted to talk. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Indeed, even in a few homes in our social orders till now; I'm
discussing extremely humanized, instructed individuals, when there are quarrels
or false impressions amongst kin, some innocent guardians demand the more
youthful kin must not talk and just the more established one ought to talk and
whether the more youthful one is liable or not, has been conned or not, he
mustn't talk, it is named affront for a more youthful individual to express
perspectives and demonstrate a more seasoned individual isn't right. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">This bygone mindset some have exchanged to the workplace
environment where their subordinates ought to never talk while they're talking.
A few managers hate to listen to the perspectives, assessments and thoughts of
their subordinates; they feel they know it all and nothing advantageous or
helpful can originate from the mouth of a subordinate. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">They run the workplace the way the homes they originate from is
run. Unfortunately, numerous extremely awesome thoughts, arrangements and
courses out have been missed as a result of our powerlessness to listen to
others. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Listening is as imperative as talking, extraordinary
correspondence must adjust the forces of talking obviously and listening
mindfully, on the off chance that you don't tune in, talking has lost its
energy to create. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Being a decent audience is one of the best supports you can do
you. When you tune in, you turn out to be extremely shrewd and savvy; you
settle on splendid decisions and choices, you win the certainty of others and
appreciate the endorsement and profound respect of numerous. All of a sudden,
you turn into a whiz since you have your own particular thoughts and the
thoughts of others! <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Giving careful consideration is the cure to a few clashes,
misjudging and even wars universally. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Your failure to keep companions and keep up great connections
might be traceable to your poor listening propensity. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">When you would rather not tune in, you accept such a variety of
things and make your own rendition of what you think happened which on most events
is not the ideal picture. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Numerous relational unions have slammed in view of unverified
suspicion and the refusal to listen to the way things truly happened, numerous
representatives have been unjustifiably managed and let go in light of the fact
that their supervisors wouldn't listen to their own particular side of the
story. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">As a rule, our poor listening propensity has been a noteworthy
deterrent to individual and aggregate advancement in life. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">To be a decent audience, you have to take after and expert these
awesome propensities; they are as per the following: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">1.          Be mindful;
don't interfere, listen till the speaker is totally wrapped up. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">2.          After the speaker is done talking,
delay, disguise, make sure you comprehend before reacting. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">3.          It's conceivable to have a thought or
intimation with respect to what the speaker is discussing, don't say what's at
the forefront of your thoughts; what you've heard or what you think about the
matter just yet; react just to what the speaker says first. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">4.          Ask questions for elucidation; make
certain you see precisely what the speaker is stating and what he implies. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">5.          Give a reasonable input in your words
taking into account what the speaker has said not in light of suppositions,
implications and theories. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Your capacity to listen will enormously enhance your association
with others. It will keep you required with other individuals and honestly
you'll live more content and more. Figure out how to listen my dear companion. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 10.5pt;">Make the most of your day.</span><o:p></o:p></div>

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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; text-align: justify;">So it was another morning last Monday and I was out
early that morning. And as I drove around the beautiful city of Lagos, I paid
attention to very many people on their way to work. Many were by the roadside
waiting to board a vehicle, many were in commercial buses and taxi cabs, some
were in their company buses and very many were in private cars all on their way
to work or place of business.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">I paid attention to all these people, I peered at
their faces and observed their body language and believe me, it wasn't an
encouraging observation. Nearly everyone looked very tired and unhappy. Though
it was the start of a brand new working week, everyone looked very tired and
overworked. No one appeared excited, motivated, inspired or happy to be on
their way to work. Nearly everyone looked very tired. Some were even asleep in
the cars and the ones awake were lost in thought and had this worried and
distressed expression on their faces.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Lagos, a beautiful contemporary city of style, class
and taste with great aquatic splendour, strong enough to inspire anyone; but
the residents didn't look inspired, motivated or happy to live in such a
wonderful city last Monday morning. Most people looked very tired, stressed and
uninspired.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Tired on a Monday morning? Why? Why are we tired
after a weekend? Hmmn.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">This got me thinking and I figured many may perhaps
be tired because they are working very hard, most people are working non-stop,
most people are working round the clock, but the big question is where is the
result of this hard work, where is the evidence?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">I think the reason many of us are working so hard
and have nothing impressive to show for it is because we are working hard but
working wrong.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">We're using the right energy for the wrong purpose
hence, we lack impressive returns.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">You see, beyond our individual lives that may not
reflect results reflecting the enormity of our hard work, our corporate
existence also in terms of structures, processes, institutions, public service,
business management and public administration are also not fantastic
nation-wide. Most companies, institutions, business and infrastructure
management is way behind compared to even some other African countries.
Banking, transportation, immigration, aviation, hospitality, environment,
security and even commerce - there's frustration everywhere. So how come people
are so hardworking yet nothing is working well? Hmm<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Truth is, ladies and gentlemen, our hard work
appears to be a futile one and we are mostly working wrong.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Many days ago, I wanted to be sure which was more
tiring, physical work or mental work, so I researched and discovered that
mental work is more tiring than physical work. Mental exertion is more tiring
than physical exertion. And the reason is simple. It is possible to pause, and
rest or completely stop physical exertion and refrain from work when you choose
to. You can decide to stop the physical activity and rest, you can sit for a
while, lie down for a while and take positions that will offer your body the
needed rest. However, when your mind is working; when serious thinking is
on-going, the likelihood that your emotions would connect with your thought is
high because your mind, will and emotions are all located within your soul. So
your emotions mix with your thoughts, when this happens, even when you're
mentally tired, you lack the power or capacity to stop thinking because of the
emotions. No matter how hard you try to stop thinking about an issue, your mind
will still find its way back to it if that matter is very important. This is
the reason why mental work is more tiring than physical work, it's hard to stop
working mentally no matter how tired you are but it's easy to stop physical
work once you've had enough.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Now the reality is, mental work leads to virtual
productivity but it is physical work that brings about physical productivity.
Whatever your mind develops is invisible, unless and until it's physically
applied, created or implemented, it cannot benefit anyone.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">In my opinion, many of us are mentally industrious
but lack physical productivity, that's why we're so tired yet there's no
physical evidence of our hard work.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">The second important problem is what our mind is
busy working at. Many of us think so hard for a very long time everyday not on
productive matters or creativity tasks or problem solving but on fearful and
depressing situations.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Our minds are working so hard, processing matters of
fear, insecurity, anger, suspicion, regret, self-pity, offence, envy, strife
and uncertainty of the future.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Our minds are so busy with over thinking, over
analysis and over processing of troubles, problems and crisis we fear may occur
in the near future.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Many of us are tired, not because of physical work
but because our minds are loaded with unending worries, our minds are working
non-stop it's so hard to get our physical bodies to do anything useful, hence
we're tired and drained of energy even on a Monday morning yet, have nothing to
show for out fatigue, no productivity. Am I talking to someone this morning?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Analysis paralysis, over thinking, many of us dwell
for hours on these issues and the following thoughts, what will my boss do to
me today, he is so wicked and insensitive, what's my employer planning to do
with me, will he pay salaries this month, what is my client thinking, hope they
won't end the contract based on how the economy is, what's the plan of this my
desperate colleague, what can be his next mischievous move, I need to be a step
ahead of him or her, will I be promoted this year, this my oga may not
recommend me o, ha, I've not sent money to my parents for some time now, I
don't even have enough for myself, they must really be mad at me now, what sort
of child am I, it's not even mid-month yet and my salary is almost finished,
how will I survive till month end, no one will lend me money, I hear they're
planning retrenchment in our office, I pray my name don't make the list o, what
will I do, I'll just die, this my husband that has suddenly pass worded his
phone, what is he up to now, who is that person he's always chatting with and
smiling, is he cheating on me, I must find out, my wife is suddenly fond of her
boss and they're now spending more time together in the name of work, is
anything fishy going on, I must know, Oh, a new session is about to begin, how
will I pay school fees, the rent is about to expire, how will I pay rent, my
car has become very problematic it keeps disgracing me, when will I have the
money to replace it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Over thinking, worry, worry, worry, we become so
tired and we really can't tell why.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Ask yourself this question and be sincere, how many
things do you really do physically in a day? How really physically productive
are you, are you working physically every hour back to back? So why are you
always very tired? Is it a case of mental exertion on matters that don't
produce nothing? Worry is extreme hard work, you just don't realise, that's why
most of the day you're sitting in one spot yet you're so tired.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Ladies and gentlemen, to convert your mental labour
to productivity, take your mind off what could be, take your mind off
situations and events that are negative and scary, and focus on daily to dos,
not daily to worry.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">List the things you want to do every day and go
ahead and do them. Ask yourself, what am I doing today, List them and do them.
When you become physically involved in work, worry is mitigated. Throw yourself
into physical productivity by being deliberate with physical work and your
mental fatigue will cease to be an issue. In fact you will become happier.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="color: #333333; font-family: "calibri" , "sans-serif"; font-size: 11.0pt;">Ladies and gentlemen, beyond hard work, become
productive.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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