Many of us today are flustered, grumpy and unhappy about our lives simply because we are perplexed and confounded in life. Today, let's talk about how to have effective coordination of our lives.
As adults it can be quite difficult balancing
effectively the various critical aspects of our lives without sacrificing one
or two for another. This is simply because too many areas of our lives demand
for attention at the same time. Our husbands, our wives, our children, our
parents, our friends, our associates, our bosses, our customers and so many
other people need us to pay them quality attention.
Also our personal vision, our dreams, our
ambition, our careers, our businesses, personal growth and even spiritual
wellbeing require enough attention for us to have a well-rounded life.
Balancing all these and winning in all these
areas within the constraints of 24 hours a day is the reason most of us are not
very happy, it's the reason many are agitated, cranky and irritable.
We all want to succeed in life, we all want to
progress in life, we all want to do very well in life. This desire however, is
predicated on our ability to do very well in these various areas of our lives
and with these very many people in our lives.
Many of us today have lost focus in life and we
are not very excited about how things are, the frustration of not being as
progressive and successful as we want to be is the reason we seek very much to
put the blame on other people and the environment even in matters where others
and the system are innocent.
It's common today to find people blame others
especially the government for everything.
I listen to a lot of discussions and interviews
and many other programs on radio and TV. Different people playing in different
areas of our nationhood talk about the huge potentials they personally carry
and the great possibilities that exist within our environment to achieve
greatness. However, most of these people hardly see the possibility of this
success outside the government coming to their aid.
Everybody, every sector, every professional, every
talented person, every creative person, every physically challenged person,
every industry, every sector, all professional bodies, babies, children, men
and women all want to beg our government to please come to their aid for any
meaningful progress to happen with their dreams and desire.
This, in my opinion is an indication of
helplessness or being overwhelmed hence, the ability to coordinate and achieve
success becomes impaired.
To many Nigerians, the government is seen and
perceived as a powerful unlimited institution that can do everything. So when
we become overwhelmed and become helpless we throw the responsibility of
possible progress at the door step of the government.
In this life and in every nation, there is
private success and public success. It is possible for a nation to succeed and
prosper and for an individual citizen to fail even within a prosperous nation.
And it is possible for a nation to be struggling and even retrogressing and for
an individual citizen to be very successful and progressive.
Therefore, as the government has a role to play
to progress and prosper the nation, you also have your role to play to prosper
and progress you. Therefore, you must be able to honestly differentiate and
separate what the role of the government is and what your own role is in your
ambition to progress and succeed as a person.
Many of us are caught in this quagmire; we place
our locus of destiny control outside of ourselves, we place with other people,
other institutions, an employer and especially, the government. This is the
primary cause of our agitation, anxiety, pressure and fears as Nigerians.
Dear friend, the critical key to having a
well-coordinated life is to establish goals for your life.
When your formula for living is purely survival,
you're sadly not operating at the level of life expected of humans. Humans are
not created to survive, humans are created to create.
When what you chase after daily is food,
clothing, shelter and money; I assure you, you need an urgent upgrade of your
understanding of yourself and life. You really don't know who you are and how
powerful you are as God's most precious and excellent creature.
Goal setting, is a very popular principle and
recommendation, but it's shocking and sad how very many people have no goals and
don't set goals in life, all they have is wishes and wild shots in the dark.
A wish is not a goal, a goal is deliberate;
supported by a written out plan, activities and even required resources; and
must have a deadline, a wish, on the other hand, is just a thought of what you
hope can happen.
For your life to enjoy progress and coordination,
you must set goals in these four major areas.
1. Personal goals. Who are you today, who do you
want to become in 2 to 5 years? To progress in life, you must set growth plans
for yourself. Now pay attention, growth plans is not about what you have but
what you have become. It's actually a deliberate effort to improve your
character and behaviours. It starts with carrying out a swot analysis of
yourself. Your strength, weaknesses, opportunities and constraint. Personal
growth is about becoming a better person – letting go of habits and tendencies
that can hold you down, embarrass you or disgrace you, and using your natural
great talents to advance your possibilities in life.
Personal growth goals is critical to being in
charge of your destiny and journey in life. Personal growth goals leads to
spiritual wellbeing.
2. Business and career goals. This is about
drawing up a plan, a vision and destination for your career and/or business.
You must treat these as separate entities from you. You need to brand your
career or your business to be outstanding. You must put in place a strategy for
growth and advancement for your business and career. Your career or business is
not you, that's why people may succeed in business and career and fail in life.
There are many successful people in business and career who ended up committing
suicide. It's because they failed in personal goals. Your personal goals should
be separate from your business and career goals, if not you'll lack
coordination and mess it all up.
3. Money goals. Also you must have plans for your
finances. You must have financial growth plans. Being rich is not about hard
work, intelligence, qualifications or quality of employment. No matter how much
you make, if you lack financial goal plans, you will end up broke later on in
life.
Money goals will curtail you from buying things
you don't need and will direct how you spend and invest. You must be able to
set a net-worth ambition for yourself over time.
4. Happiness goals. It is possible to have a good
job, make good money, lack nothing money can buy and still be very unhappy.
Happiness comes from three things, physical wellbeing, good conscience and
healthy relationships.
Self-discipline is key to achieving happiness as
a goal. Doing what is right instead of what you like is your key to happiness.
Happiness comes when you treat God as God, respect and value yourself and treat
others right.
Happiness comes from doing the right thing when
tempted to do what appears easier or pleasurable. Happiness is the reward and
consequence of right choices.
A world class pianist would find the white and
black keys on a very good piano useless and frustrating without having in mind
a tune or song he wants to play. Playing that song or tune is the goal that
gives relevant meaning to the keys on a keyboard. If you don't set your goals
in life, all the critical keys in your life will confuse and frustrate you.
When you set goals in these four areas of your
life and you focus on achieving these goals, you will suddenly have that sense
of coordination, you will feel responsible for your life, you will seem to have
all the answers and you will make rapid progress in life and make a beautiful
song of your life. Dear friend, develop a sense of coordination.
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